Self Help The Old Fashioned Way

tumblr_meuleuvSwd1qzpp8po1_500When I was in my twenties I ran to the bookstore, every time I was at a loss. Whether it be emotional, physological, professional and coping, I turned to the wise words of countless authors who were an expert in directing people’s behaviors to be able to work through their, well mostly, insecurities.

What I learned from those books, that words cannot change anyone, if they aren’t mentally ready for a change and that maturity is what gets you through most any problem one is faced with.

I’ve come to this conclusion because now that I am well in my 40s, I see things differently and cope with them in a much wiser way than I did when I was younger. I have a tolerance for most things and always search for the logical approach to coping or handling a milestone I am faced with.  This, although I read about years back, I didn’t quiet understand how to apply what I learned from the books until I  reached a level in my life where everything made more sense and became  much more clearer.

The moral of this story is that every decade in our lifetime we learn and cope differently with the same issues we are faced with and no matter how many self-help books we read to accelerate the knowledge or find a cure for our ailments, it isn’t going to come unless we mature with age and develop the skills necessary to weather any storm we are faced with in our lives.

Publishing My First Book


I have completed a handful of novels. Well, technically the first one I am not yet ready to publish, I just can’t part with it. The second is a two-part novel, which I am so proud of and so ready to publish.

The trouble with taking the next step is, I don’t know which route to take first. E-book or paperback?  The reason for my personal debate is that, while I commute to and from work every day, I see people, on some days reading an actual book and other days kindling away. I would have to say the ratio is 50/50 and the decision a tough one.

The target audience for my book is mostly anyone mature enough to understand the storyline. There is no age limit, no gender, no class, no color. It’s simply a beautiful story and one very real.

So, while I contemplate which route to take, I would appreciate some feedback from anyone who is in the same boat as I am.

Thanks a bunch

My Personal Concerns On Getting Older

HI’m not so worried about the age factor, when I refer to this topic. What I am talking about is the fact, that with age, we tend to slow down, simplify our habits and delete (pardon the expression) most anything complex from the equation mostly because we are no longer able to tolerate it.  This is what I am worried about.

In the last five plus years, I have found myself getting rid of most of my belongings, while expressing to those who asked, that I was downsizing just for the fun of it while I searched for new inspiration. However, while downsizing, I found myself also not interested in watching television, nor talking with anyone on the phone and I think the worst, is I’ve packed away my iPod. I’ve lost my patience and a bit of tolerance for loud noises and unnecessary conversation.  This revelation kept me up last night, while I came to the conclusion, that I was getting older and requiring nothing but quiet and relaxation. Perhaps it’s because, I’ve done my part in creating chaos and loud noise, in my younger days and now all I want is silence, just so I could think and be at peace within myself.

I’m not sure I like this change…

Why A Suitcase You May Ask

prod40071I’ve often considered myself a nomad (not necessarily defined by Webster), but rather one unsettled soul roaming aimlessly through life with a bag of knowledge and experience in tow.

This is how I would explain the title of my blog to anyone who feels the need to relate.

I’ve contemplated starting this blog for years. I’ve actually done so elsewhere and due to the bleakness of the topics I chose to write there, I decided that blog was bringing me down way too much. So, I logged out one last time and put the blog out of my mind for a couple of years until I was ready to start it up again in a new place and with a new face.

The contents of this new and improved blog is my views on life, from the one I have experienced for several decades, in hopes that I could exchange knowledge and achieve what will ultimately make my life the best that it can be and hopefully along the way, I can help you as well.

Stay tuned and keep your fingers crossed.