Unconditional Love…

Last night in a heated discussion this topic came up: How far and how long does the unconditional love rule apply for your children – who are grown adults?

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I’m Still Learning To Be A Parent

parenting-is-a-journey-quote-on-colourful-theme-design-romantic-quotes-about-being-in-loveThe funny thing about being a parent is that you start out, the second you find out you are pregnant, by being absolutely scared after the novelty wears off of course. Scared about being pregnant, scared for the baby inside of you, scared about being a mother let alone a good one, scared of raising your child in this complex world of ours, and scared for just about everything.

Two to five years into being a parent, you think you’ve got the hang of it and choose to have another, very confident that you could handle both or even more. And you do, now nearly doing things with your eyes closed – changing diapers that is and keeping a feeding schedule.

At pre-teen years, you notice your faced with different challenges, some great while others not so. You brush it off as a learning curve for all of you. To clarify, on how to cope with a child with many questions, and  an attempt at developing their own voice and character.

Just when you think you have that down, they become teenagers, shutting you out of their world. Keeping secrets, exploring, being daring, inconsiderate at times, a little selfish and developing a tone, worrying you, forcing you to seek some guidance from your parents perhaps or even professionals, shying away from letting your extended family members know you are not able to handle your children.

The twenties, a sigh of relief you think. They move on, establishing themselves in the world, following their passion, their goals, relationships in-love or not, careers and what not. They barely contact you, fill you in, or even listen to anything you have to say. And if they do, it’s nearly too late. They need you after a gruesome wake up call and you go running, baffled at the fact your adult child needs you. So you give advise and be supportive, hoping you’ve done all you can to help, perspiring profusely at the fact, you could have possibly done more damage than good, keeping your fingers crossed.

They get married, driving you insane in the process. Or better yet, they fall for someone you don’t approve and there is nothing you could do to make them see the troubles ahead. And if you do, you are the bad guy, hurtful words thrown your way to make you second guess your parenting skills, running to an expert for advise, gambling on choosing the right way to parent yet again.

Just when you finally get a good night sleep, they announce a separation, a divorce perhaps, a loss of a good job, a plan to change gears with family in tow, financial mess possibly or even tangled in an affair, complicating everything. Not necessarily asking for help, but rather expecting it in a strange and unexplainable kind of way. And when you speak up, your opinion or wisdom is laughed upon or criticized, now your children bestowing upon you the inkling to second guess yourself again, wondering when in the world will you ever learn to be a parent?

 

What Would Happen If….

woman_reading_newspaper1There are days, while I go for my walk, I wonder about the strangest things in life and to make conversation, I ask the person who I happen to be walking with the question to see what they think?

So, since the debate is always one dimensional, I decided to post my thoughts to see what you have to say about them?

1. What would happen if processed foods (canned, frozen or otherwise) or fast food restaurants where never created? Would this nation have an obesity problem today?

2. What would happen if you were able to choose your (any) doctor from any medical facility and the medical coverage was generic enough to cover it without any restrictions or guidelines? Would everyone be healthier and less prone to depression.

3. What would happen if America does not participate in any wars outside of the country? Would we become a stronger nation internally.

4. What would happen if we brought back ALL manufacturing of products/goods to the US? Would we become more prosperous and motivated to do better as a nation.

5. What would happen if women were able to stay home with their children until they reach the age to go to school? Would the children of our nation hold better values and strive to do their very best voluntarily.

6. What would happen if the CEOs of companies were better educated about their company? Would they care enough to make the work place better.

7. What would happen if….. (you fill the blank)